Debunking Five Myths About Marriage in Islam
While social media continues to be flooded with misinformation about Islam we debunk some of the common myths surrounding Muslim marriages
Marriage in Islam is often surrounded by misconceptions—some rooted in cultural traditions, others spread through misinformation. For British Muslims looking to get married, it’s essential to separate fact from fiction. Not only for yourself but other citizens who are being misled by sensationalised social media posts with a hidden agenda.
This blog breaks down the most common myths and uncover what Islam actually says about marriage.
Myth 1: Arranged Marriages Are Forced Marriages
One of the biggest misconceptions about Muslim marriages is that they are all arranged and, worse, forced. In Islam, forced marriage is strictly prohibited. The Quran and Hadith emphasise the importance of mutual consent. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) annulled a marriage when a woman reported that she had been forced into it.
While arranged marriages—where families help introduce potential spouses—are common in some cultures, they are not compulsory. Many British Muslims meet their partners through friends, community events, or halal matchmaking services like Vidnik, where faith and compatibility take priority.
Myth 2: Women Have No Say in Choosing a Spouse
Some people believe that Muslim women have little to no choice in selecting a spouse. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Islam grants women the full right to accept or reject a marriage proposal.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasised the importance of women’s consent, saying, “A previously married woman has more right concerning herself than her guardian, and a virgin’s consent must be sought” (Sahih Muslim 1421).
Platforms like Vidnik empower women by allowing them to find partners in a way that aligns with Islamic principles while giving them complete control over who they match with. The app also provides extra privacy through features like blur pictures which give female users full power over who sees their image.
Myth 3: Love Marriages Are Not Allowed in Islam
There’s a common belief that love marriages are not Islamic and that all Muslim marriages must be arranged. However, Islam does not forbid love before marriage—provided it remains within halal boundaries. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) himself married Khadijah out of love and admiration. If a man and woman develop feelings for each other and wish to marry, Islam encourages them to proceed in a halal manner, involving their families and performing nikah.
Marriage apps like Vidnik help British Muslims connect with like-minded individuals while ensuring the process remains respectful and faith-centred.
Myth 4: A Man Can Marry Multiple Wives Without His Wife’s Knowledge
Polygamy in Islam is often misunderstood. While a man is permitted to marry up to four wives, this comes with strict conditions. The Quran (4:3) states that if a man fears he cannot treat all his wives with justice, he should marry only one. Furthermore, fairness extends beyond financial support—it includes emotional, physical, and psychological fairness.
In practice, polygamy is rare in many Muslim communities, particularly in the UK, and most scholars agree that it should not be undertaken lightly. Additionally, most Islamic scholars emphasise that honesty and transparency are essential in any marriage, meaning a man should not enter another marriage without his current wife’s knowledge and discussion.
Myth 5: Divorce Is Forbidden in Islam
Divorce is discouraged in Islam but not forbidden. In some cases, it is even necessary if a marriage becomes toxic or harmful. Islam provides clear guidelines for divorce to ensure it is handled with fairness and dignity. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) acknowledged that while divorce is disliked by Allah, it is permissible when needed (Sunan Abu Dawood 2173).
For those struggling in their marriage, seeking guidance from religious scholars, family elders, or counselling can help navigate challenges before making final decisions.
If you’re looking for a life partner who shares your faith and values, Vidnik offers a halal, secure, and reliable way to meet your match. Download the app today and take the first step towards a meaningful and faith-centred marriage.
