What Is Rukhsati
Explore what a Rukhsati is, where it originates from, and how it fits into the Islamic marriage process.
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Cultures and traditions may be different from what you're familiar with, but we’re here to help you understand what Rukhsati is and how you
can embrace this practice with your future spouse.
Defining Rukhsati
Rukhsati, which translates to “sending off,” is a tradition primarily practised in South Asian Muslim countries, such as Pakistan. It is
sometimes referred to as a *Doli*, which also denotes the transport used during the Nikkah, and in Arabic-speaking countries, it is known as
*Dukhul*.
Rukhsati signifies the end of the wedding celebrations, where guests gather to bid farewell to the newlyweds as they leave the venue,
although it can take place shortly after the Nikkah. For the bride, this can be an emotional time as she says goodbye to her parents and
childhood home, beginning a new future with her husband.
The presence of the bride's family during the Rukhsati is important for emotional support, as well as to offer their blessing as she leaves for
her new home. Another key element of Rukhsati is prayer; the couple is encouraged to perform specific prayers, such as two rak’ahs of nafl.
Additionally, the bride should receive a warm and welcoming embrace from her new family, which reassures her maternal parents that she is
in good hands.
The final part of the Rukhsati is the consummation of the marriage, which is expected to take place soon after the Rukhsati. However, this
decision is entirely left to the bride and groom to make at their own discretion.
When Should a Rukhsati Take Place?
The Rukhsati should occur after the Nikkah ceremony, but it can be delayed depending on circumstances. For example, if the bride is studying, she may wish to remain at her family home until she completes her schooling. Another reason for postponing the Rukhsati could be related to visa requirements. If one spouse is from a different country, obtaining the necessary documentation could delay the event. There are no strict restrictions on when the Rukhsati can take place, as long as it happens after the Nikkah. It is entirely up to the couple’s convenience, but it is generally encouraged that the Rukhsati is held sooner rather than later so the couple can fulfil the purpose of the Nikkah.
Rukhsati in Islam
While Rukhsati is a traditional practice, it is not a religious requirement. Once the Nikkah is performed, the man and woman are free to live as husband and wife, according to Islamic principles.
Post-Rukhsati
In conclusion, Rukhsati is an important and symbolic tradition in many Muslim cultures, marking the end of the wedding celebrations and the beginning of married life. Understanding and embracing this custom can help you and your future spouse make the most of this significant moment in your journey together.
